tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post5814444716823603328..comments2023-06-21T04:21:04.977-07:00Comments on The Dog Lived (and so will I): Something's Gotta GiveTeresahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12031358252817150321noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-54829710337359777662009-09-29T02:26:29.266-07:002009-09-29T02:26:29.266-07:00Darn it, I meant to say that I can't believe a...Darn it, I meant to say that I can't believe all the things you do!! You are amazing. I worked all through my chemo and radiation first time around, with only a few days off, and two weeks off for surgery. I'm not pushing myself this time and I've been home, struggling with stressful things that need to be done, being a single person now not working, etc. But hey, I could be dying here...The Dirty Pink Underbellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060961249044941562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-61168302606936619372009-09-29T02:23:49.459-07:002009-09-29T02:23:49.459-07:00Thank you for your blog. I love your writing style...Thank you for your blog. I love your writing style and completely relate to your pet peeves regarding stupid people. I love the layout of your blog, and your sense of humor. I keep one, a blog that is, that's mostly just whining. I had breast cancer in 2006, with positive lymph nodes, and on July 31, 2009, was diagnosed with metastasis on my bones. My favorite excuse / catch phrase is "hey, I could by dying here". I love saying it, and it's catching on with my friends. Seems like everytime I find a blog I like, I find a comment saying that person has since passed away. Thanks for still being here. Keep up the good fight! And congrats on being finished with all your treatments!The Dirty Pink Underbellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060961249044941562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-78666470765278122532009-09-28T18:53:33.112-07:002009-09-28T18:53:33.112-07:00T,
I learned after burning out at my former job t...T, <br />I learned after burning out at my former job that it's ok to say no and even to work 40 hours a week. It was hard to adjust, took at least a year, but I've learned. Unfortunately, now I've gone the other way and say No far too often. You've done more since July than I've done in the last two years! Hmm, I think I just had an epiphany too. Thanks for that! May we both find balance in the next year!<br />LLori Lacefieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16919433821943568678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-29082601540958264142009-09-28T15:45:26.576-07:002009-09-28T15:45:26.576-07:00Ah, the overachiever personality is confronted! I ...Ah, the overachiever personality is confronted! I am only guessing. I have the OCD problem which means I hate empty days. I have chased my own tail so to speak trying to be always productive. Now in my 50’s I have made it a point in the last year to have “no plans”. I had massive withdrawals. My son helped keep me grounded which I am forever grateful since no other human could stand me. Now I am one year into no plans and no commitments…other than work. I am finding out new things about myself each day. Please join me in making up the day as we live it. Good job Teresa!Mike Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15788127324664586213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-75639386398641749732009-09-26T03:11:22.307-07:002009-09-26T03:11:22.307-07:00You're so right. Cancer makes you take care of...You're so right. Cancer makes you take care of yourself.... and by rowing back on your activities that's what you're doing. Taking care of yourself. Not quitting. <br /><br />My T-shirt arrived yesterday! Thank you!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12430266244464921219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-35835853827851416452009-09-25T17:02:03.641-07:002009-09-25T17:02:03.641-07:00Been there, done that and I get you 100%. It does ...Been there, done that and I get you 100%. It does seem odd that organizations and boards etc can survive when one takes an absence but they do--life goes on. The king is dead, long live the king--its eye opening--but again, it is also very liberating. You can get better at saying "no". Keep practicing and reserving your own space and time and empty spots on the calender. You are still healing for petes sake--pace yourself and do the things that make you happy and fulfilled as much as possible. That is not selfish, it is survival. I dont think anything you write would be bad, you have a gift. Go with it---Helganoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-39562409774314215222009-09-25T07:58:15.824-07:002009-09-25T07:58:15.824-07:00I can help you with that "no" thing.I can help you with that "no" thing.STACEYnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-69950794880259349892009-09-24T23:31:49.938-07:002009-09-24T23:31:49.938-07:00I could so relate to everything you said. Been the...I could so relate to everything you said. Been there (well, not the cancer part). I do agree with Lisa C's comments. You will always be a doer but you don't have to do it all or over do. Balance! Also, I think a long weekend every couple of months, if not monthly, is healthy. Also, you clearly need a vacation.Zee Beardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07334244423895019882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-28787551206171774822009-09-24T22:30:56.880-07:002009-09-24T22:30:56.880-07:00I struggle with saying "no," probably in...I struggle with saying "no," probably in different venues than you do (I don't have your reputation and ability to get things done), so I understand how we get all caught up in doing all things for all people.<br /><br />I personally don't think it has anything to do with stupidity or arrogance, Teresa. You can be proud that you are a "doer," about issues you care about, and you can be just as happy and satisfied being a slightly "less doer," over issues that you care about. No one is counting your contributions but you.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08419235000980170328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-43521503700645618282009-09-24T22:05:41.066-07:002009-09-24T22:05:41.066-07:00Sara--hey, cancer was easy compared to trying to w...Sara--hey, cancer was easy compared to trying to write a novel. I know--my novel had taken me six years; cancer only took a few months! ;-) I think easing back into a new life is a better approach. Take the time to create what you actually want. (I'm repeating this to myself actually).<br /><br />Melissa--thank you for your words. I hope I am ready for this lesson. And that I actually learn something! and oh yeah, I hope I'm never sappy!Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12031358252817150321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-78427327994716159112009-09-24T20:21:26.113-07:002009-09-24T20:21:26.113-07:00In my less cynical moments, I try to think everyth...In my less cynical moments, I try to think everything happens for a reason--and when we're ready, we get the lesson. Being the smart woman you are, I'm sure your epiphany included this thought: the universe just gave you your a-ha moment.<br /><br />I love your writing and the fact that you have been able to take a difficult topic, give it humor, and not make it sappy.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11559002073000574840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5541587873267542093.post-12775896701676865852009-09-24T20:11:31.813-07:002009-09-24T20:11:31.813-07:00In a crazy kind of way I understand. Since early F...In a crazy kind of way I understand. Since early February of this year for me it has been "I must finish my book" and then it was revisions and agent-shopping and then book deal. And then, well, I flopped. I had been able to block everything out (except dogs and a few other things) and just concentrate on the book. And then with book done (with just a few revisions needed, and not due until October) <i>I didn't know how to leap back into real life</i>. You plunged back in and instead I just stared in dismay at all the things I'd neglected and didn't really know where to start. <br /><br />OK, I started trying to paint my office, but we know how that went!<br /><br />I finally realized it's going to take a while to adjust to "new" life (as full-time novelist) and a while to catch up on all the things I neglected while I was concentrating on the novel. And it take a while to figure out how I want to live this new life.<br /><br />As it will take you a while to reform your "new life." Because it is a new life and you have to take care of Teresa first. And that's gonna mean saying no sometimes.<br /><br />Great epiphany. (And I certainly don't mean to trivialize your cancer experience by comparing it to writing a book - but both are in a way life changing, and we shuffled things to accommodate them.)Sara J. Henryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145626175256433448noreply@blogger.com